Dear Dad

Dear Dad

by Andrea Tam

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Shift Happened

Shift Happened

by Andrea Tam

There are many ways to process the loss of a relationship.

The simplest explanation of the universal law of attraction is that like attracts like. The basic premise is that you draw to yourself that which matches you. If you have a partner, you two were a match at one time. As the relationship evolved, there was a shift or a change. Neither one of you may have been aware of it, but something changed. And now you are no longer a match.

There are thousands of ways either of you could have shifted to cause a change in your relationship. Perhaps there was a shift in a belief, a way of being, or personal goals, or maybe what they desired in a permanent relationship started to differ from what you wanted.

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Doris's Closet

Doris's Closet

by Andrea Tam

There are many ways to process loss, like me processing the loss of Doris, my mom, by sorting through her closet and giving her stuff to someone who would give it a new life. If you or someone you know is processing loss, consider a gift box filled with positive rituals, care, and love. Sometimes, the simple act of giving one of our gift boxes helps someone find a way of processing loss.

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Grief Town

Grief Town

by Andrea Tam

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A Letter, A Friend, and a Weber Grill

A Letter, A Friend, and a Weber Grill

by Andrea Tam

There are many ways to process the loss of a loved one. On Friday the 13th, it will be my 12th widow-versary. In other words, 12 years ago, my husband, Brad, passed away. Every widow-versary is different. Sometimes I completely forget about it. I feel victorious when that day comes and goes without much ado. And other

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It's More Than A Park Bench.

It's More Than A Park Bench.

by Andrea Tam

There are many ways to process the loss of a loved one. "This is beautiful. Michael loved this park. We spent a lot of time around here, so this is a good place for the bench. I love the landscaping, too. Thank you for helping us with this. It means a lot to us." said Mary "Mary, it was my pleasure. Please give my rega

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Suicide. Silence and Shame.

Suicide. Silence and Shame.

by Andrea Tam

There are many ways to process the loss of a loved one. I adored my paternal grandparents and always wondered why I did not have maternal grandparents. When I would ask my mom about them, every muscle in her body would tighten, and she would say: "Suicide is for cowards! They are selfish and never think about who they

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Co-Workers Who Care

Co-Workers Who Care

by Andrea Tam

There are many ways to process a loss.On a beautiful Thursday evening, Gail took her two dogs, a large huskie named Max, and a small poodle mix, Minnie, for a walk. The two dogs enjoyed playing with each other. This time Max was playing more aggressively than usual with Minnie. Gail quickly attempted to pull Max away f

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Navigating the Holidays After a Loss

Navigating the Holidays After a Loss

by Andrea Tam

There are many ways to process a loss. During the holidays, it can be extra difficult for people who experienced a loss. It can be challenging to feel happy and festive when you feel sad, alone, and isolated. A few years ago, my husband, Brad, and my dad, Jule, died from cancer. Brad died in January, and my dad died in

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Wildflowers

Wildflowers

by Andrea Tam

There are many ways to process a loss. "Skylar! It's time to get up. Come on. It's time to get up and start your day. I mean, it's only noon." said Skylar's mom, Kathy. "Mom, I can't. Not today," said Skylar. "Look, Sky, I know you're heartbroken, but isn't it time you start leaning into your life? You and Chris were n

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The Rainbow Baby

The Rainbow Baby

by Andrea Tam

There are many ways to process loss. Amanda and Curt had been dating for four years. Amanda was an Administrative Assistant for an accountant, and Curt worked in logistics for UPS. In early 2020, Amanda suspected she was pregnant, so she bought a pregnancy test. The following Saturday morning, Curt and Amanda sat patie

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Schmoopy Wasn't Just a Dog

Schmoopy Wasn't Just a Dog

by Andrea Tam

There are many ways to process the loss of a pet. My beloved, 11-year-old dog, Schmoopy, died a year ago. It was a significant loss for me. In 2010, my husband, Brad, had a rare form of brain cancer. He insisted that we adopt a puppy. I thought it was a ridiculous idea. However, Brad persuades me to be open to getting

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