Grief Town

Grief Town

by Andrea Tam

There are many ways to process a loss.

After my husband, Brad, died, I believed I would never be happy again. Then a healer told me this story, and it changed my life. The story goes something like this.

'Grief is like a town everyone will drive through in this lifetime. This town may have some quaint coffee shops with good coffee and great restaurants with good food. You may meet some lovely people there, walk through beautiful parks with them, and make good friends. 

Some of the people who came to Grief Town stayed. They developed friendships with people who had similar stories of loss and thought as they did. In time, they came to believe this was the place for them to put down roots.  

The people who stayed in grief did so because they became confused. They started to believe that this was their destination. That is where they belonged - in grief. 

However, grief is not a destination or a place to call home. And it is not a place to build your home. It is a place to visit. You may stop to pick up a coffee or stay for a few days. And when you are ready to leave, continue on your journey.'

Before I heard that story, I was ready to buy a house in Grief Town. I believed I had lived the best years of my life with Brad. He was the love of my life, and I thought I would never find a love like that again. (I was wrong, by the way.) 

After hearing that story and processing it, I knew I was stuck. And intuitively, I knew I had the power to get unstuck. From that day forward, I woke up every morning and chose to keep moving my life forward. I also trusted that someday I would get to the other side of my overwhelming grief. For the time being, I needed to keep taking steps forward and curb my time in grief town.  

There are many ways to process loss, like a healer telling me a story that helped me see that I needed to make a different choice. If you or someone you know is processing loss, consider a gift box filled with positive rituals, care, and love. Sometimes, the simple act of giving one of our gift boxes helps someone find a way of processing loss.

Thank you for reading,
Andrea Tam
Founder @ Robiins
Processing loss. One gift box at a time.™

Best,
Andrea




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